Sunday, April 5, 2020

A Time of Healing

Thank you to everyone for your prayers during the passing of my mother.

Please allow me to give you a heads-up in case you have loved ones in a hospital during this most difficult time.

No one should have to endure what my mom and consequently we have gone through.  Being forced to lie dying in a hospital without family for seven days is unthinkable. When we were allowed to call, my mom would beg us to get her out, she said they were being mean to her. My mom was 82 years old and had one of the sharpest minds I know of.

We fought for a week trying to get the hospital to let one of us in to see her to no avail.

Thanks to hospice we were able to get my mom home where she died surrounded by her family. 

The trauma she went through at the hospital left her with fear, anxiety, and nightmares.  She was afraid to sleep and begged us not to leave her.

The trauma we've gone through as a result will forever stay with me.

I pray no one ever has to experience what she and we have gone through.

Let us not forget that this virus is about more than facts and statistics and numbers, especially for the elderly.

I am emotionally broken and need some time to heal.  I will return to blogging in a few days.

Thanks for understanding,
Patsi

44 comments:

  1. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your Mother. It is an extremely difficult thing to experience under normal circumstances, and what you all went through sounds horrible. I'm so glad you were able to be with her at the end. Thoughts of peace and love to you and your family. Take care of yourselves. Cheryl in Washington State

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  2. I am so very sorry for your loss. Our Mommas always have a special place in our hearts. May the Lord allow you and yours to heal your hearts. I am sorry you all went through such a horrible ordeal.
    God bless you all. Prayers being said.

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  3. I am so sorry that the last days of your mom life were so very difficult for you all and for her. Please know that you all are in my prayers.

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  4. Dear Patsy,
    My heart aches for you and your family, I am so very sorry you had to go through this.
    You are in my prayers.
    Julie

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  5. My sympathies on the death of your mother. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

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  6. Dear Patsi,
    I am so sorry for your loss and for the trauma that you've all had to endure. I will keep you and your family constantly in my prayers.
    Much love to you,
    Kelsey

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  7. Oh Pasti, I am so sorry to hear your mom passed. I am thankful you were able to get her home and she died surrounded by loving family. We were not so lucky with a family friend who died alone in the hospital. It will leave us with lasting nightmares ourselves. Praying for peace and comfort for you and your family. I am so sorry. Love Cindy Jane

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  8. Patsi, I am so sorry. I cannot even imagine what you and your family are feeling right now. And your precious mother...I am so grateful she was with you all in the end. Sending my prayers for healing in the many days ahead.

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  9. Dear me, Patsi, I didn't realise you had lost your mum. How sad for you all. Big virtual hugs from Australia.

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  10. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your mum, and the circumstances. I hope that when the edges of your grief are wearing down, you will be able to take some solace in being there with her at the end and she died surrounded by her family.

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  11. I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for healing and big hugs to you and yours.

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  12. I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

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  13. I am so very sorry.
    Prayers for comfort for you and your family.

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  14. We are lucky , the old nursing home and the one Daddy is in now actually has close friends and family working in them to check on him.He has Alzheimer and long pass the stage of knowing anyone and is eating baby food. I leave it to GOD when he goes, part of me wants him released from this shell that I know he wouldn't want to be and the child prays she can hold her Daddy one more time while he is alive

    My prayers and thoughts are with you. Mother's death was hard on all of us, it was not a gentle passing surrounded by loved ones...just me that she didn't want there, she only wanted her son and said so with her last breath.

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    1. I am so sorry for what you went through with your Mother's passing. I will be praying for you as I experienced a similar situation with my Mom and it is very painful to be told your presence is not wanted.

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  15. I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot image what you poor mother went through and what you and your family had to go though too.

    My neighbor is a social worker in a hospital. All she has been doing with the virus going on is sitting with patients since no one is allowed in. She is staying with the most sick and holding their hands while they pass so that they are not alone. She hates going to work because all she is seeing is death but she said if she doesn't go then people will be dieing alone. So each day she goes to work. She is much stronger then me. I don't know that I could deal with that for long.

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  16. My condolences on the loss of your beloved mother, Patsy. With the current pandemic situation, and the medical staff stretched to their limits (both emotionally and physically), it really is a very difficult time for anyone to loose a loved one right now. You were very lucky they allowed her release to hospice care. I'm so glad you and your family were able to be with her one last time before she passed.

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  17. So sorry about the passing of your Mom, Patsi.. I lost my mother in June, and now my father in January---just 7 months apart. I am still traumatized. I want to remember the old days when they were "alive" and when my Dad knew me. S0 sad about the circumstances. Thank God for Hospice...

    ...and Chef Owens, sympathy to you as well. Sorry you felt that rejection at the end...I did with my father, as he accused me of poisoning him as I tried to feed him...

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  18. May your mom's soul rest in peace. My condolences to you and your family.
    Savitha

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  19. Patsi, I'm so sorry to hear this news. My sympathies to you and your family.

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  20. Very sorry for your loss, prayers for your family at this difficult time.

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  21. I'm so sorry for your loss Patsi, my prayers and condolences go out to you and your family in this difficult time. I just lost my mamma on March 29, she was 92. Hugs, Sandy

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  22. Dear Patsi, sincerely sorry to hear of your loss. Angry and empathizing with your heart at the trauma experienced. Praying for unexplainable and unfathomable peace for you and family at this time. So thankful that despite all your mother did not die alone. Take as much time as you need to heal. Great big hugs from Australia.

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  23. Dear Patsi,

    Prayers are being uplifted for you and your family during this traumatic and grief-filled time. We pray for you to be held tightly in Jesus’ loving arms for as long as it takes while He comforts and heals you of your anguish.

    Laura

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  24. Dear Patsi, so sorry to hear about your dear mother's trials in the hospital. God bless her for her courage. So glad you could bring her home and surround her with so much love! She will be missed so much by those she loved and loved so much by our Lord who welcomes her home. May He envelop your family in His loving arms and comfort you all. God bless Gaila in the NW

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  25. So very sorry for you and your family Patty and especially in the way that things played out for your poor mom. Please take care and give your self some time - we'll still be here.

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  26. I'm so very sorry to hear of our Mother's passing, Patsi. Prayers, love and hugs to you and your family. Shirley in PNW

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  27. I am so very sorry, prayers from Norway. God bless. Pam

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  28. Every time I go in my kitchen and pick up one of the beautiful dishcloths made by your hand I think of you all and pray. Hugs to you dear one. I am heartbroken for all your family went through.

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  29. Patsi, no one deserves to receive the treatment your mother was forced to endure. I am so sorry it happened the way it did. Allow yourself to grieve and all of your blog friends will grieve too even though we are in different parts of the world. Rest and take all the time you need.
    Jeannie@GetMeToTheCountry

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  30. Dear Patsi!

    You and your family have been in our evening prayers, when the chooks are tucked into bed. Our Heavenly Father shares your grief, as the poor and needy are close to His heart, and the way we treat those who are in their final days is an indication of our society’s values. May the Almighty give you purpose and strength each day, and may your walk with our great Shepherd be richer.

    Thank you, Father, for bringing Patsi’s mother home!

    Rachel (Australia)

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  31. I am new to your blog and have been enjoying it so much. When you didn't post for several days, I was concerned that something was going on with your mom. I am so very sorry for what she and your entire family have endured. Bless you...and take all the time you need to find your way back to peace. You and yours have been traumatized.

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  32. So sorry for your loss. Deneen

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  33. I am so very sorry for your loss compounded by the horrible situation you and your family endured. God bless.

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  34. Dear Patsi,
    I'm so very sorry this happened to your mama. I'm praying for you and your family right now. Sending you a hug.
    Laura of Harvest Lane Cottage

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  35. So sorry that you and your family had to endure this. Deepest sympathy on the passing of your dearly loved mother.

    Much love,
    xTania

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  36. My sympathy for your loss and the related trauma. May you find healing.

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  37. I am so sorry for your loss. I had been praying for you although I was not aware your mother was ill just that you had not posted lately. Please take care of yourself and your family.

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  38. Oh Patti, I am so sorry. ((((((Hugs))))))

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  39. Sending prayers and hugs your way. I glad you were able to get her home.

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  40. So so very sorry for your loss. I pray you will indeed heal and find peace in your heart again. May the loving hand of our Father touch you and your family with His healing power.

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